Creating A Resourceful State With Our Lockbox NLP Technique

Break Your Limits has developed a technique to enable you to draw upon all of your positive and resourceful experiences to help you to gain any mental advantage that you require.  Whatever you need to achieve can be stacked in your favour by conditioning your mind to utilise your own experiences as an army of support.  All you need to do is proactively package your past references into little boxes to use at your leisure!

This technique draws on metaphor and imagery and needs a little bit of imagination, so make sure you’re starting it at a time when you’re feeling inspired or creative for the best possible start.  Have a glass of water to nourish your mind, sit comfortably, and enjoy!

Creating your lockbox of positive references

For the purpose of this exercise, we’re going to assume that you’re going to meet someone for the first time and you want them to see your compassionate and kind side.  You need to believe that you really are that way, and to do that, you need to stack the odds in your favour…

1. Begin to focus on what you want to achieve at the end of this encounter. It can be any time where you need to interact with someone to establish a positive first impression as a compassionate and kind person.
2. Think of the qualities that you possess which align with the target’s beliefs, morals, and principles.
3. Cast your mind back to references from the past where you have used these qualities. Draw on as many references as possible. They can be little trivial examples, such as demonstrating compassion by opening a window to let a bee fly out, or moving a frog from the side of the road… or maybe the time when you decided not to pull the legs and wings off a crane fly (that’s a daddy long-legs for the children amongst us – me included!). Or it could be a major act of kindness… helping an elderly person to cross the road, attending to someone as they fell in the street, or telling someone you loved them.
4. Now imagine a box in front of you. In this box you can store all of your memories and experiences to be of benefit to you. You can start to sift through the memories you collected earlier in order to find the really resourceful ones. Anything that will benefit you in this scenario should be copied and placed inside the box. When you’ve finished, close the box and lock it. All of the positive emotions will start to churn and brew and gain intensity.
5. Next, imagine a concrete mould to your left. In this mould you can pour all of the instances where you have failed to utilise these qualities. For every time you pulled the legs off the crane fly, stick it in the concrete mould. For every time you laughed at someone trip or fall over, stick it in the concrete mould. Any instance of a negative behaviour which goes against your desired state… put it in the concrete mould. Eventually you’ll have put every negative state into the mould. Now lock them out forever by setting every reference deep inside the mould. Take the hardened block and bury it deep into the ground behind you. If concrete can contain radioactive material then surely it can keep your negative references away!
6. By now your lockbox of positive references should be ready to open up! Unlock the box and embrace the energy of the positive emotions. Really get immersed in them and draw upon the positivity within them. Really start to understand them and how they have made you into the person that you are and will be for the future.
7. Lock the box again and put it safely in your inside pocket. These are your references and your memories. You can use them whenever you want and you will feel the benefit of them. Keep going back to the box a couple of times a day. Eventually they will become an intrinsic part of you. You won’t need to use the box all the time, but it will always be there to serve you.

Once you have competed this technique, you can take time to repeat it for other resourceful states. Amongst my collection I have boxes to give me:

• Confidence
• Determination
• Compassion
• Competitive drive
• Phobia cure
• Challenging fears

and many more too!

Let us know how you get on with this technique and how it feels. Everybody has a slightly different approach, so experiment with it. Use this technique as a blueprint, try it on your friends, and give us some feedback. All we ask is that you credit Break Your Limits where possible, and give some feedback!

If you would like further help with this technique or any other element of NLP, you can enquire about a private session by emailing info@breakyourlimits.co.uk.