It doesn’t matter what you do for a job or what you do in your personal life… self esteem plays a MASSIVE part in everything you do. Just like in the animal world, people are attuned to read each other’s non-verbal cues to gauge a situation… to mark their prey… to find someone to forge alliances with.
If you have low self esteem then you’ll be exhibiting it in a number of ways, no matter how hard to try to disguise it. In fact, consciously disguising low self esteem can make you look shifty and untrustworthy. Your words will be saying “I’m fine”, whilst your subconscious body language will be saying “I’m totally NOT fine”. As people attempt to process your words and use their powers of intuition, they’ll reach a conflict and alarm bells will ring.
The result: People don’t trust you. You feel worse every time it happens, further confirming your belief that you’re worthless. Next time you feel even worse and see no way out. It’s not nice, is it?
So, in summary… Self esteem is VITALLY IMPORTANT.
If you suffer with low self esteem, you may find that people use you, that you can’t gain people’s trust in your abilities or products you might be selling, and that no matter how hard you try, you can’t get people to like you.
How can you improve self esteem?
The problem sits firmly in the fact that you’re either convinced that people won’t like you -because of past experiences – or conversely that you’re TRYING to be a certain way that you think people will respond to, and you take a confidence hit when they don’t respond favourably.
Remember that you’re going to have to move away from a painful state and reprogram all of the negative associations that you currently have. You have to move away from all of the references that you have stored in your mind that conjure up debilitating responses.
If you have low self esteem, it’s not all doom and gloom. You can turn your life around by working to change your beliefs and your references. You can create a new identity with confidence and conviction.
By improving your self esteem you can be better in sales, better in relationships, and better in life! What are you waiting for? – Make the change!
