Each new year many of us attempt to commit to a New Years Resolution – usually giving up something we like.  This more often than not results in failure to achieve your goal – or more accurately, failure to achieve the punishing regime that you’ve set yourself.

If you remove a cup of water from the ocean, the rest of the ocean immediately rearranges itself to fill that space.  A cup-shaped hole is never left behind.  Your life goals should work in exactly the same way.

Why do New Years Resolutions rarely work?

New Years Resolutions are simply not compelling enough to make you want to stick to them.  Ask someone what their New Years Resolutoin is and you’ll more often than not hear one of the following:

• I’m going to stop smoking
• I’m going to give up alcohol
• I’m going to stop going shopping as much
• I’m going to stop eating fatty food

I’ve taken the liberty of highlighting the important words in each of the statements above.  These are important because all of them – whilst describing the action you’re going to take – are inducing of negative actions.  Of course they are all meant with positive intentions, but the mere thought of preventing yourself from doing something that you take pleasure in can often be enough to breed resentment and negativity towards your goal.

If you’re constantly telling yourself “I’m going to stop doing this thing that I like”, you’ll often face inner resistance no matter how much you believe in what you’re trying to achieve.

How can you create a more compelling New Years Resolution?

If you’re going to have a New Years Resolution, immediately stop thinking about what you’re going to stop doing, and begin thinking, talking, and acting like what you actually do want to do.  For example, here’s a more compelling and desirable way of rewriting the previous resolutions:

• I’m going to stop smoking become a healthy non-smoker
• I’m going to give up alcohol drink more water and fruit juices and look after my body
• I’m going to stop going shopping save money to improve my standard of life for the future
• I’m going to stop eating fatty food eat more healthy foods and cut down on the things that are bad for my health

As you can see, the above goals are now more constructive and working towards an achievement rather than focussing on changing something.  You’re now working towards a replacement for the original thing which gave you pleasure.

For everything in your life that you want to remove, you must replace it with something else, and the best way to achieve your resolutions is to replace that thing with something that drives and motivates you more.

If you remove a cup of water from the ocean, the rest of the ocean immediately rearranges itself to fill that space.  A cup-shaped hole is never left behind.  Your life goals should work in exactly the same way.

How can I improve my chances / How can I set my goals?

We released an article about goal setting, which we would recommend you to follow rather than setting a simple New Years Resolution.  Goal setting can help to transform your entire life in a miriad of ways, ranging from your physical condition to your career goals and relationship goals.  The goal setting exercise allows you to really get creative and work out what you want more than anything else, and then whittle down your desires into manageable action-driven goals.  By setting yourself compelling bite-sized actions, you’re more likely to achieve, by firstly working on the small goals to gather momentum, then using that momentum to achieve the greater goals.

The original goal setting article can be found by following this link.

Good luck with your New Years Resolution and achieving your goals.  Remember, if you create compelling and desirable goals, you’ll stand a much greater chance of achieving them.

Are you looking to make a change in your life?  You might be embarking on a new career, an exciting new project, or maybe setting a New Year’s Resolution.  Whatever your aims, you can improve your chances of succeeding by doing a great goal setting exercise…

If you ask any successful person how they achieved the things they have, you’ll usually always hear about their vision and idea for something.  An idea for success, maybe… An idea for happiness… possibly.  An idea that compelled them to act and make sure it became a reality… most definitely!

Success can be measured in a number of ways and criteria dependant on your own goals in life, and your own set of beliefs.  Success to you might be losing a little bit of weight, it might be buying a new car, or having a top level executive job.  Success might even be something which benefits other people.  It could be doing work for charity, raising awareness of a condition, or providing a valuable service to your community.

Whatever your goals and ideas for success are, you can achieve them with a few easy – yet important – steps.  This article will help you to set your goals for the year ahead and begin creating the future that you really want.

The Technique

We will break your goals down into a few key (and easily digestibe) parts.  This will help you to set specific goals in all areas of your life, and to avoid falling into the trap of spending too much time and energy in one or two areas, and neglecting the rest of your life progression.

Step 1 – Establishing what you really want

For all of the following categories, write down anything that you would like to change.  It doesn’t matter how trivial, or grand that these objectives are.  The important thing is that you write them down.  Don’t worry, we won’t need to achieve all these just yet, and you’re not binding yourself to a personal development contract quite yet!  Don’t think about how attainable these goals are, or what’s stopping you from getting them.  Just be creative and excitable and naive about it.  Write down what you would really want if you could have anything, but don’t forget the trivial things too – those can be the most rewarding and fun to achieve.

• Relationship/Family Goals – How do you want your love life to change?  If you are single, do you want to find a partner?  If newly married do you want to start a family? Whatever your age, maybe you want to devote more time to your parents, grandparents, or siblings?
• Financial Goals – How would you like your financial position to alter?  How much do you want to earn, and when?  Do you want to invest in anything?
• Career Goals – What do you want to be doing?  Do you want to carry on as you are?  Do you want to progress in your current job?  Do you want to change jobs/career?  Do you want to set up your own business?
• Creative Goals – Is there anything artistic or creative that you want to achieve?  Do you want to paint?  Do you like photography? Is there anything else you wish to achieve that’s fun and new to you?
• Contribution Goals – Do you contribute to charity or the community?  If so, what else do you want to do?  If not, do you want to help in your community with anything?  Can you help raise awareness of something worthwhile?
• Physical Goals – How do you want your body to look?  Do you need to put on some weight?  Would you like to lose some weight?  Do you want to start going to the gym, or eating more healthy foods?
• Emotional Goals – Where would you like to be emotionally?  What is happening in your life that makes you happy, and what would make you feel even better?  What’s not going so well, and what would you like to change about it?
• Educational Goals – What do you want to learn?
• Social Goals – How do you feel about your social life, and relationships with friends?  How would you like this to be different?

Step 2 – Working out what you need to do to achieve your goals

For each of the items that you listed in the first step, go through and write down what actions you would need to do to achieve the goals.  For example if one of your physical goals was “drink less alcohol”, then your action could be “Limit myself to two alcoholic drinks, twice a week”.  If your goal was “Do some painting”, then your actions might be “Join an art group.  Take painting lessons.  Visit the Richard Goodall Gallery.”  By doing this, you start to become more attuned to solving the problems that would have previously stunted your thought process.

Step 3 – Prioritisig your compelling goals

Now you should have a pretty big list of goals and actions.  Go through the list of goals and write a number next to the goal, representing how important it is that you achieve that goal.  This will help you to prioritise what you really want.  The scale should be 1 to 5, with 1 being the highest priority, and 5 being the lowest priority.

Step 4 – Being practical about your actions

Go through each of the actions that are required to achieve your goals, and label each one according to its difficulty to achieve.  Write a number between 1 and 5, with 1 being the easiest, and 5 being the most difficult.

Step 5 – Working out how long you need in order to achieve your goals

Compare your list of goals and actions, and estimate how long you’ll need to put into action.  You should label the goals in the number of years they would take to achieve, starting from 1 year upwards.  If the goal is “Eat more healthily” and your action is “eat an apple a day”, this would only take a matter of minutes to put into action, however we class this as a “Year One Goal”

Step 6 – Shortlisting and organising your goals for the year ahead

Work through each of your goals and actions that you’ve labelled as “One Year”, and start to organise them in a way that motivates you to start working towards them.  A good way to do this is to use the numbers we assigned earlier to make a priority list.

Firstly, organise your goals in numerical importance order – All the goals with a “1″ should go at the top, and the ones with a “5″ should be at the bottom.

For each of the actions, start to list them under each of your shortlisted goals in difficulty order, with the easiest at the top of the list.

This process will help you to organise things in a way that helps you build up momentum and determination throughout your year.  You will be able to see things progressing and moving in the right direction in an organic manner by tacking some of the easier action points first.  It’s like getting up a staircase – you need to start by walking up the lower steps so that you can easily reach the higher ones – If you removed teh low steps, you’ll struggle to get the momentum to reach the higher ones.

Step 7 – Review your goals

Have a look through your list of goals for this year.  Does it make you feel good and determined to succeed?  Are you happy with everything in the list?  Is there anything missing?  If you’re not entirely satisfied, work back and see what you can change.

Step 8 – Take action

You’ve got your action plan in front of you now.  You have a set of goals, and a list of things you need to do to achieve them.

• Copy the list onto a chart or large piece of paper.
• Stick the list to your wardrobe, bathroom cabinet, front door, fridge, or anywhere else for you to see each and every morning, day, and night.  This will help you to commit to the goals and keep them fresh in your mind.
• Find photos of what you want to achieve and print them, keeping them wherever you’ve stuck your list.  This will give you a visual cue to achieve your goals.  If you’ve not got photos, do a quick search of Google Images and find something similar.
• Do something each and every day to work towards your goals.
• When you put something into action, highlight it on the list.
• When you complete an action, tick it off.
• When you achieve a goal, circle it.

Good luck with your goals in life.  If you would like further information or support, contact us by email, subscribe to our Twitter and Facebook channels, follow the RSS feed, email us, or leave a comment in the area below.  We’d love to hear from you.

So many people that I’ve held private sessions with have reported what I can only describe as a “silent scream from the inside”. It is much like your subconscious is trying to tell you something, but you’re unable to respond proactively. The times when you know you should do something – whether a preventative action to avert a problem, or a constructive action to attain a new goal – but you’re unable to physically or mentally engage. It is almost like you’re not paying attention to yourself, or that you’re wide asleep!

Is this inability to respond because your conscious self is afraid of what the subconscious self is asking of you? Maybe it is because your subconscious self does not have enough conviction and qualifying evidence to allow your conscious self to trust it implicitly?

I’ve noticed these difficulties when I’ve dealt with personal clients, and also sporting professionals, and have even encountered these similar situations in my own life. From my own experience it’s been a trust issue between my conscious and subconscius self, and in effect a means of your conscious self keeping itself busy stacking up conflicting evidence and really just keeping itself busy enough so that you don’t have to face something new or challenging. Remember being a child and being told to tidy your room? – I’m sure you’d conveniently not hear the request in much the same way as I did!

Take the time to listen to yourself!

This entry was inspired by Viv Craske’s article entitled “Is your confidence in a coma?”.

We’ve been getting involved in youth coaching recently through regional football and the English FA, and have been paying very close attention to the ways in which parents, coaches, and spectators interact with the children throughout the game. Coaching children in any capacity can be an extremely rewarding experience, however it must be done with the child’s best interest at the forefront. We’ve witnessed lots of destructive behaviour exhibited by parents – not only from the men! – both on and off the pitch. This can be conveyed through language, tonality, body language, and other such emotive aspects of communication.

If you’re in a position of conducting or observing youth coaching, then watch out for these key problems next time you’re there. For the sake of safety of the children and your own reputation, we advise you not to turn up unannounced if you don’t currently have links to the training venue and the participants – clubs and coaches have a legal and moral obligation to safeguard the children and are within their rights to turn you away, which could cause embarrassment despite any legitimate intentions.

Common Destructive Coaching Methods

Negative Instructions

Adults often use phrases such as “don’t do [this]” and “stop doing [that]“. Classic examples I hear on the football pitch are be “Don’t let him get past you”, and “Stop running around like that”. The first thing this does with the child is to make them break concentration and evaluate what you’ve just said. Remember that throughout schooling (especially Primary Education) a child’s grasp of language is constantly evolving and expanding, but it is still limited, and that should be considered when communicating with them. Furthermore, it makes the child question their actions and panic next time the situation arises… “what should I do? I MUST NOT let him past…”, by which point the opposition may have already slipped past, further compounding the issue and leading to further negative displays from the sidelines.

Commiseration

Consider common statements such as “Unlucky lads”, “Unlucky shot”, and “bad luck”. Whilst spoken in the heat of the moment, they can adversely affect the child’s future recollection of the situation. They will dwell on how they had bad luck, and didn’t quite succeed. Focussing on the negative elements, whilst said with the best of intentions, can be detrimental to a child’s confidence and future performance. Remember that at this time, a child’s character is shaped whilst they react and learn from experiences. Working to improve this area can have a massive effect on the child’s subconscious decision making process.

Negative Body Language

If things are not going quite right, parents and coaches regularly stand immobile, arms folded, and exhibiting generally poor body language. This is often more destructive than negative verbal communication as it is visible at all times from the whole pitch. A child only needs to look towards their parent or coach for a bit of encouragement, and instantly sees negativity from the sidelines. This further compounds the child’s negative emotions and provides no positive effects. You’re dealing with children, and children respond to encouragement and leadership, not closed body language.

Verbal Abuse

There’s no point glossing it over as “putting them in their place”. According to the English Football Association, adults persistently criticising children and barraging them with negative instruction is a form of child abuse. Children respond badly to negative instruction and negative language, and venting frustrations verbally is not going to win any psychological or motivational battles.

Interfering Parents

Parents may think they’re helping by shouting instructions to their – or other people’s – children, but it’s only going to complicate matters. The only person who should be communicating with the players in a tactical capacity is the team coach. Clubs often introduce a code of conduct for parents to adhere to, which stipulates that they must refrain from communicating tactical instructions, and refrain from any negative emotion. Parents are encouraged to respectfully applaud good play and provide positive encouragement to the whole team. Negatively vocal parents and spectators only serve to instill embarrassment and fear in the children, which contrary to the beliefs of some parents that we’ve spoken to, it does not serve to “get them in line and buck up their ideas”.

Overly Competitive Coaches & Parents

Remember when you were a child? Was it all about the winning, or did you just enjoy going out and playing in the field with your friends? Of all the children we’ve spoken to, a vast majority of them value friendship and fun above any other aspect of the game. Winning is not often a consideration for the children, however it is often imposed upon them by overly competitive coaches and parents. Kids want to have fun, but their loyalties are torn because the coaches and parents are figures of leadership, respect, and authority. Their motives and reasons for being there are questioned. Their fun is sapped away as they begin to feel that they are there for the sole purpose of winning. They become demotivated if they don’t perform to “the required standard” as set by their parents, and start to feel despondent when they have a “bad game”. The children then turn on each other, critical of their performances. All of this is because of the negative impact imposed upon them by the very people who are supposed to be setting positive examples.

In summary

Whether you’re a parent, spectator, teacher, or coach, you should refrain from exhibiting negative behaviour. Some of the children present may have personal difficulties, troubles in school, be victims of bullying, domestic abuse, or other such difficulties. Recreation and team/character building time should be for exactly that purpose alone – for the children to mix, have fun, forget about any other troubles in their lives, and to be children.

A note to parents & coaches:

Remember these signs when you’re next at a game. Look out for them, be aware, and think of ways in which you can act differently in the future. Avoid confrontation and negativity, and give the children the support and encouragement you would expect from a role model.

Let us know your thoughts in the comments area at the bottom, and share your experiences. How would you do things differently? – We will be writing a follow-up article which explores the opposite side of the coin – how you should communicate with children during sporting activities. To be kept up to date you can subscribe to our Facebook and Twitter groups, or register to receive our newsletter.

In a previous article I mentioned Tony Robbins, a fantastic author and motivational speaker from California.  If you’ve not read or listened to Tony’s work, I would highly recommend you give it a try.  His own life story is exceptionally warming and inspiring – I’m not going to give away anything about it here and spoil the experience of reading it in Tony’s words!

Regardless of whether you’re looking for help in your personal life or business life, whether you’re starting a new job or setting up a business of your own, or whether you’re scared of flying or nervous about exams, there will be something to gain from reading his books.

For a starter I would recommend the fantastic book Awaken the Giant within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Life.  It’s one of the very first books of its kind that I ever read, and is what originally got me interested in the whole arena of motivation and self-coaching techniques  Also, a fantastic place to keep up to date with the latest Tony Robbins adventures, and also to receive regular ancient motivational and inspiring proverbs and quotes is via the Tony Robbins Twitter Page.  I have updates automatically sent to my BlackBerry like a text message (sms), so it’s almost like I’ve got Tony there coaching me on a daily basis.

We’ve all been “interviewed” countless times in some form during our lives. Whether it’s for the obvious – a new job – or any of the other times we’ve been questioned or judged by someone for the purposes of fact finding or testing suitability for a task.

Have a quick think now to all the times this has happened to you… to get you started, here’s a short list of the times I can recall from the top of my head:

• Primary School: The time I was told I could not succeed in mental arithmetic.
• Primary School: The time my parents were told that I was immature and never paid attention (I was 6 years old!).
• High School: The time when the careers adviser says I’m probably best not aiming to be an inspirational character.
• High School: The time the Year Tutor decided I was best pursuing a career in a History field.
• College: The time the year tutor urged me to go to university or I would be wasted in society.
• Jobs: The 6-7 job interviews and job applications I’ve been to.

If I followed all of the gems of advice I’ve had over the years I’d be a pretty different character. To give you an idea of how loosely their advice was followed, here’s a summary of my outcomes:

• I got a B in GCSE Maths – not bad for someone who’s told they can’t add up!
• I’m now sat here writing this article and being in ownership of FIVE companies and adviser for another three.
• I’m a motivational speaker, mental coach, and football coach… I’d say that’s pretty inspirational!
• I took Geography in school, attained an ‘A’ grade, and still take an active interest in Geography – I have no interest in traditional History subjects whatsoever, although Geology and Archaeology do interest me.
• I never went to university. I’d like to think my contribution and success is a testament to what can be achieved.
• Every job or promotion that I’ve applied for has been successful. The only jobs I’ve not “won” are the ones I’ve turned down because they didn’t suit me!

So what we can learn from this is that any advice given is not particularly good advice. In fact, most of it in my case was really ill-advised. People in influential positions can only advise you based on the half hour or so that you spend together – and let’s face it, most of the time you’re not going to open up to a person in that time frame. Is it really a surprise that they make such incorrect judgments? In fact, they’re probably making perfectly reasonable judgments based on what they’ve seen. What they see is what we choose to show them.

What does this then say about us? – We’re naturally rather defensive characters. We protect our emotions and feelings by being guarded. We keep our cards close to our chest until we feel comfortable with a person to trust them. None of these emotions and beliefs will really sit well in a situation where we’re going to be tested and scrutinised in a time-limited situation, are they?

One interviewer once told me “You’re completely new to this industry and you’re not the best candidate on paper for the job, but I like you and know that you will fit in well with the rest of the staff and will be able to learn the job”. All I did to achieve this was to follow the tips I’m about to share with you.

What can you do about it?

Be Open

You need to open up. You must “act as if” you are familiar with the interviewer to the extent of allowing them into your space and allowing them to endulge in your real self. In that short time they need to understand who you are, where you’re headed, and what motivates you. If you do not do this, you’ll give out a completely different impression of yourself, most likely either appearing extremely guarded, introvert and lacking confidence, or the mirror opposite – rather arrogant and self indulgent.

I’m sure you’ll agree that neither of these are inductive of a successful interview.

To achieve this: For a week leading up to the interview you should imagine yourself in general conversation with the interviewer. It doesn’t even matter if you’ve never seen them before. Imagine that you’ve been talking on the telephone or via email. Just imagine general flowing conversation and act as if you already have an open (yet professional) relationship with the interviewer. Whatever you do, DO NOT sit in the interview and refer to your imaginary conversations! The purpose of this exercise is to help you to become comfortable with the interviewer, not to scare them!

Be Calm

It’s crucial that you remain calm. Leading up to the interview make sure to practice sitting in silence and relaxing. It’s great to be able to focus and remain calm and comfortable in a situation where you must sit still and attentive. Read a book. Sit outside and watch a spider making a web. Go to a park and focus on leaves blowing in the breeze. Do anything that means you have to sit still and maintain discipline. You need to train yourself to be able to relax and focus on a task when everything else around us wants to get up and be active and fidgety.

Listen

Focus on what’s being asked rather than what you want to say. One of the worst things you can do is run off on a nervous or excitable tangent and neglect to answer the question being posed. The interviewer will be perpexed and wondering what you were hearing, and more destructively you’ll be smiling back at them with a satisfied look because you’re convinced you’ve just given the best answer that they’ve heard the entire day. Just keep things simple and answer the question that’s being asked.

Be Informed

If you’re going for an interview for a specific field, make sure you know about that field or industry. You’ll probably be asked questions which you can link in nicely to your knowledge of the role. Try to find out what they want in a person for the role and mentally prepare yourself to cite examples of those characteristics that you possess. It’s still crucial that you listen to the question and answer it accordingly, but if you can tie in a little piece of backup information, then go for it! Keep it short though. If they’re that interested in hearing more about it, they will be sure to ask you.

Further Reading

These tips should set you in good stead for your interview preparation. Remember that the person interviewing you is just that – a person. They cannot make good judgements or enlightened decisions unless you give them a true reflection of who you are and what you can bring to their company. They will appreciate your honesty. Every interview I’ve been to has been approached using these techniques and tips as a basis. I’ve been honest and frank about my intentions and have been awarded jobs based on my honesty and approachable nature.

To further enhance the chances of your success, Break Your Limits will be releasing additional mental conditioning techniques to help you prepare. We’ll be covering ways of putting yourself into the interviewers shoes and seeing the interview from their perspective, looking into the future and seeing where you really want to end up, and looking at ways of you imagining yourself already in that role and approaching the interview from a whole new perspective! Make sure to bookmark this page and check back for updates!

Have you ever needed to speak in front of a crowd or stand up at the front of the room to deliver a speech?  How did it make you feel?  If you were nervous leading up to it, or felt your stomach turn whilst making your way to the front of the room, then this technique is for you!

By using this technique you will be better prepared to deliver a speech, seminar, or any other public performance without experiencing the nerves and the apprehension that has previously plagued you.

By using this technique along with our Lockbox Technique, you’ll be sufficiently equipped to deal with almost any public speaking situation.

The Technique

1. I want you to relax and think back to the first time that you had to deliver a public performance and felt nervous.  For most people, this goes right back to primary education.  It might have been a “show and tell” experience, or reading a paragraph from a book in class.  Once you have the earliest reference you can find, keeping searching and thinking back further.  Does anything else spring to mind from an earlier time?  Once you’re confident that you have the earliest memory of a nervous public performance, please move on to the next step.
2. Focus on the memory that we established in step 1, and start to play it through in your mind.  Re-live that experience and notice the way in which you approached and handled the situation.  How could you have done things differently to change the experience into a pleasant one?  Consider your body language and your thought process leading up to the occasion.  Given the experience that you have at your disposal now, could you have handled the situation differently to your advantage?
3. Realise that you now have many more references and abilities in your arsenal than you did when this experience took place.  Compare yourself now to the person you were when this original event took place, and be aware of these differences, and the way in which you would handle the situation if it happened for the first time today.
4. Now cast the previous memories aside and imagine that this is the very first time that you will be delivering a public speech.  Imagine a time when you became excited about the unknown – It could be the excitement leading up to the anticipation of buying a house, a car, or visiting a new place.  Any time in the past where you were excited about something you’ve not experienced before.  Now remember how that made you feel.  It was something unknown, yet you were excited about it… so in that case why should you be nervous and anxious about something else that you’ve never experienced?  In the same way that you became excited about the “good things”, transfer this feeling of excitement into the prospect of delivering a great public speech.  Imagine yourself walking up to the front of the room with your shoulders pushed back, chest puffed out, and head held high.  Give yourself a proper smile – don’t just crunch up your mouth muscles, take it right up to your cheeks and your eyes, and even feel your forehead starting to pull.  As you approach the front of the room, see yourself up there from the eyes of a third party sat in the audience.  See how big you look?  See how confident you look and the respect you’re commanding in the room?  Everyone is there because you have something that they don’t have, and they want it.  They want to know what you know – you’ve got one up on them and they’re waiting for you to share this knowledge with them.  Now continue to play out the scene.  There’s a gently buzz of noise in the room, and then you stand up and begin to address the room. The room becomes silent as the audience listen to your every word with intrigue.  They want to know what you have to share with them, and they’re engrossed in your speech.  Notice as your words light up the room and the audience sit attentively waiting to hear more.  Play through your whole speech.  Everything is going to plan.  Everything is just right.  Now when you’ve finished your speech, see yourself wrapping it up and concluding your talk.  Notice as the room becomes alive with the buzz of a satisfied audience.  Notice their positive reaction to the end of your speech and the sight and sound of the occasion.
5. Now reflect on this event.  Did it go how you planned?  How does it make you feel about delivering the speech now?  If you’re still unsure about it, or feel that the way it plays out doesn’t suit your needs, then repeat Step 4 again, this time substituting the negative aspects of the event for elements which better suit your needs.  If you need an extra boost of confidence, now is the time to combine this method with the Lockbox Technique.
6. Now you should be raring to go and full of confidence.  Keep playing through this new imagery at least once a day, ideally twice a day until the night before you’re due to deliver the speech.  Each time you do this, create a physical cue to associate with this new feeling of confidence.  It could be pressing your finger and thumb together, tapping your hip, scrunching your toes, or any other quick and simple physical gesture to yourself.  On the day that you’re due to deliver, play it through in your mind first thing in the morning – you can do this whilst you’re in the shower or eating your breakfast – by now it’s so matter of fact that you don’t even need to concentrate on imagining it – you’ve done it so many times before.  It’s as much of a natural occurrence as sneezing, blinking, or itching your nose.
7. It’s now time to enter the scene for real!  Remember how you’ve played it through in your mind so many times, it’s become a natural event.  You’re full of confidence and you’re sure of yourself.  Your physical cue is armed and you’re ready to use it to invoke that extra boost of confidence and familiarity whenever you need it.  You know what you’re talking about and your audience and there because you have information that they want to hear.
8. You’re ready!